With Mother’s Day coming up I wanted to share with you about my journey as a mother to three boys. I wanted to be a Mother for as long as I can remember. I was 3 when my little brother was born and I thought he was mine. Being a mother is defiantly one of the best jobs I have ever had but also one of the hardest.
The Younger Years Of Being A Mother To Three Boys
When my boys were 5, 3, and newborn, I remember thinking I have the best of all world’s. I loved their ages. They were so much fun but I was physically exhausted. You can just imagine or maybe you remember. If not just follow some of the younger bloggers and watch their Instastories.
The Teenage Years of Being A Mother To Three Boys
As the boys got older, they were able to do a lot more for themselves so I wasn’t physically exhausted but I was mentally exhausted. Maybe you have been there or are there now.
One piece of advice I give to mother’s or father’s of boys is to read the book Bringing Up Boys by James Dobson. I have read many self-help books but this book has great advice that I still remember. One piece of information that has stayed with me and helped me when my boys were teenagers was something about boys go through a hormonal period when they don’t think their mom is as wonderful as they once did.
My boys and I have always been very close. Maybe more so than some due to the fact that I was a single mom in their teenage years. It helped to have that book as a reference to know I wasn’t doing something wrong.
My advice to mother’s of teenagers is to be patient and enjoy this time. It will pass before you know it and you will be wishing for it back. Not really, but maybe when you focus on the good times.
Try not to get caught up in dramas with their friends. Just be there to listen and make suggestions if it seems like the right thing to do. Thank goodness with boys there isn’t too much drama.
My boys didn’t seem to tell me very much but I did learn that when they started talking, usually when we were in the car, I better really listen. Sometimes, I would find myself distracted by other things instead of listening to them. Then later I would wonder what they were telling me. You can learn so much from them if you really listen.
Those teenage years were very stressful at times. I made many mistakes but luckily my boys have all turned out to be successful men.
Instead of pushing through on a daily basis and trying to get to the next stage try some self-care. I wrote a post about it here. Here is a great book to get and keep next to your bed. The other thing that really got me through the hardest times in my life were my friends. I have written a few posts on friendships here and here.
Now, my boys are 28, 26, and 23. I am still a mother but my role now is different. I am embracing this stage of motherhood and enjoying every bit of it.