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Hey guys, welcome back to Well and Worthy Life Podcast. I’m so excited you’re back here today with me and I’ve got some updates for you. So first update, I am going back to podcasting, and having a podcast release every week. We’ll see if I can keep up with this, but I really feel like consistency is key and I talk about this in everything that I do.
That we have to be consistent and it’s easier to be consistent week to week. And so what we’re going to do is we’re going to have some shorter solo episodes so that I can be more consistent. So it’s not overwhelming for me because. We don’t want anything to be overwhelming for any of us.
That’s when we don’t get things done. Again, I talk about this in revive now. And so I’m trying to practice what I preach when it comes to podcasting and it can be a lot. So anyway, so I’m really excited to tell you about that. So today is going to be a solo episode and it’s going to be pretty short.
And then also I want to tell you what’s coming up this week. So if you’re listening to this, when this is released on Tuesday, November the 7th, on November the 9th I have a free workshop coming up, Motivation Uprise. Refocus and revive your motivation to avoid those extra holiday pounds. You know, one of the questions I get asked all the time How do you stay motivated? You know, how do you stay on track? How do you, you know, whether it be the holidays or vacation or something, you know, comes up in your life, how do you keep going?
And so I’m going to share that in a free workshop on Thursday. Now it’s going to be Thursday at 10 a. m. Thursday, November the 9th. So if you cannot be there. Don’t worry about it. If you can’t be there live, I love it when you come live, but if you can’t be there live, then go ahead and still register.
Cause we’ll send you the recording. Okay. So I don’t want you to miss out on that. Especially with the upcoming holidays. It can be a battle sometimes, right. With all the parties and all that stuff. So let’s get into today’s podcast. So today’s podcast really thought about sharing with you five things that I would tell my younger self.
Now, there’s probably so many more things that I would tell my younger self, but these were five things that really came to mind right away. And I felt, I feel very passionate about this because I always say this, if I had known then what I know now, I would have done things so differently. And you know, hindsight’s always 2020, right?
So we can always look back. But I think that we should learn from our past and we should learn from others that have been before us. You know, that’s what I really try to learn from people that have gone before me and done things. So. That is one of my missions is to help you that especially if you’re a lot younger than me, like this podcast, especially that I want to be like your big sister, maybe your mother, I could be your mother probably too, but.
But your big sister that just kind of tells you a few things that hey pay attention to this Okay, so the first thing and I you know, I tried to order these in a way that it’s most important to lease But honestly, I don’t know what is the most important but right now the most important to me I would tell you to enjoy The moment they fly by, okay.
They, they, they soar by you like, and I was always this person who I couldn’t wait to get to the next stage of life. Like when I was in college, I couldn’t wait to graduate. I actually graduated in three years because I was in such a hurry. I don’t know why I was in such a hurry, but I was I was always that person.
I couldn’t wait to get to the next. Next stage of life. Next stage of life. So then it was after college, you know, I couldn’t wait to get married. I couldn’t wait to have children. Then I was like growing them up before they were even grown up. For some reason, I couldn’t. Just enjoy the moment, you know, now at 58, I’m finally enjoying every single moment.
And yeah, there’s some bad times and there’s good times, but we’ll, and we’re going to get to that, but really understanding. That time flies and you may be in a stage of life that you’re excited about your next stage of life or, or whatever, but really enjoy where you are in that moment, because it does fly by.
Okay, so that’s. Probably my number one and then the other thing I’m going to tell you that I would tell my younger self and this is for everybody out there. It’s going to be okay. It’s going to be okay. Like, there are going to be some bad times, but they will pass. You can survive. You are resilient and you will survive.
yOu know, those bad times go away. Just like the good times. You know how you wait on like, let’s think about something when we’re younger. Couldn’t wait till it was Christmas and it was going to be so much fun and then Christmas was here and it was gone. Or you couldn’t wait for a vacation and then it’s here and it’s gone.
So, The same thing happens with bad things. One of the first really, really, really bad things I can remember happening to me was when my father got sick with cancer. At the time it was about this time of the year. Actually. Gosh, when I think about it, it’s just blows me away. It was 29 years ago. And he was 58 years old, the same age I am, and he was diagnosed with esophageal cancer.
And and I was 20, I had to be 28 around then. So I was 28, he was 58, and he was diagnosed with. Esophageal cancer. Now, that’s Was one of my biggest fears is to lose one of my parents and and it scared me and it should have scared me. He ended up, he was diagnosed in November and he passed away at the end of April.
It was a very quick and it was horrible at the same time. I had tons going on in my life. My oldest son was diagnosed with, he had bacterial meningitis, was in the hospital, he then, while he was in the hospital, it’s crazy, this is a long story, I won’t get into it, but they found that one of his kidneys was non functioning, he had to have a kidney taken out, I was pregnant with my youngest son, Cole we moved during that time, it was just like, Are you kidding me?
It was really a tough time. And like I said, then my father passed away, something I thought I could not handle. I adored my father. My father adored me. We were very, very close. And, oh, it was horrible. But life goes on. And you do realize how resilient you are. And you can go on. And, you know, I kind of in this may sound awful, but I kind of measure things like when something bad happens.
I’m like, is anybody dying? I have lost my mother to lost her about. I think it’s been about 8 years ago now that she passed away. You know, I mean, like. I’ve had some tough times. I went through a very ugly, ugly, nasty divorce when I was around, I think I was 41, 40, 41, 42. It took almost two years.
So those were some really bad, bad times. And I survived. And, you know, it may have been like, especially like my divorce, it took a long time, but. I got past it. And there were good times in between all of those bad times. So, I want you to know, it’s going to be okay. I wish somebody had told me that. When I was in the midst of it, because it didn’t feel like it was going to be okay.
I, I wasn’t sure if it was going to be okay. But it is going to be okay. You will survive. You’ll be stronger for it. And honestly, those bad times are what make you who you are. I mean, I really feel like that’s what has made me who I am those bad times and how I have survived those times and and come out stronger and a better person for those times.
So I want to tell you it’s going to be okay.
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Okay. Now, the other things are not as deep, but, but I think it’s very, very important, . One thing is, and I talk about this in Revive Now Membership a lot, but we need to be lifting heavy weights.
And in my 20s, I did do personal training and And so I was lifting weights in my 20s and fairly heavyweights and I was gaining muscle, but guess what I didn’t like the way I looked because I felt like I was getting too muscular looking and maybe it wasn’t just me. I was married to a very much a man who had strong opinions and he did not like the way I was looking either.
And so I in my really at the end of my twenties, beginning of my thirties, I stopped lifting the weights and I became a runner. And I will tell you, those were some of the best days of my life running with my girlfriends because we solved. All the world’s problems, right? But I really wasn’t getting any, you know, especially my upper body strength.
I was lifting my children. So that, that helped. But I wasn’t creating new muscle. And now we know in our thirties. And our twenties and thirties really is the when we can really build that muscle because towards our mid to late thirties, we start losing that muscle and we get you know, More fat even if we’re that skinny fat.
Okay, so Then it was funny because then in my 40s, I found pure bar, which I still love pure bar Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s amazing and it has some heavier weights in there now And it has the resistance train resistance aspect of it But I’m not sure if we’re lifting heavy enough there so Now in my fifties, like I said, I know how important lifting heavy is, , it is something that I’m continuously working on trying to find what is the best fit for me to lift.
Heavy I’m a class person. I love classes. So it’s trying to find what’s what’s gonna work best for me But I know that I need to be lifting heavy. So I’m really trying to Change things up and not do things the way I did it before and really focus on lifting heavy things Because that’s the way that muscle is the way we have a longevity, you know, think about it.
I mean, as we get older, if we start losing our muscle in our thirties, and we’re not building more muscle, then, you know, we become frailer and frail, frail. I’m not saying that right. But anyway, you understand what I’m saying that that our bodies are breaking down. In fact, Dr. Gabrielle lion talks about this very strongly in our book forever strong talking about muscle centric medicine that we are over fat.
and under muscled. And I really do believe that’s true. I’ve noticed in my fifties, all of a sudden, I started getting that belly fat, right? And things that were getting flappier. And it was because I was losing the muscle and not building that muscle back. And it’s a lot harder in your fifties. So if you’re.
Young in your twenties and thirties and forties, and you’re listening to this. I want to tell you, go out, get some heavy weights and lift some heavy weights, figure out what’s going to work for you. So lift heavy. I’m just going to tell you, it will make a difference and it’s never too late to start. If you haven’t started.
Just start. Find a personal trainer. Find, because you want to do it safely, and I think that’s really important to do it safely. And you have to protect those joints and everything else, but that muscle is so important. Okay? Okay, so I’ve talked about enjoy the moment. Enjoy the moment. It’s gonna be okay.
You’re resilient. Work out with weights. Lift heavy, become more intentional with what you’re eating. Again, you know, we didn’t talk about this a lot. Not when I was in my 20s and 30s. And to be honest with you, I was I was brought up in the age where all of a sudden there was all this processed foods, right?
Hamburger Helper, Twinkies, all those things. And So we didn’t even know the implications of all of this. And. So we thought quicker is better, right? Grab and go food. But, but here’s the thing. We know that a lot of that food, processed food, is inflammatory food. And inflammatory food just makes us look not our best.
It just, it makes us. Feel not our best. I mean, all the things, this, think about it. When you have an inflamed body parts, like you hit it and you have this swelling, this inflammation, it’s because your body’s trying to heal itself. And that’s the only thing it can do. And we don’t want to get our body inflamed.
So I would tell myself, and I was really bad and even. I fed my children. I do. I’m a confessions here, right? I didn’t know. And so when you know better, you do better. Right? So what I will tell you is we have to become more intentional with our food and think about. food as medicine and as this nourishment that we’re putting in our body so that our body can perform well, can feel well.
And so what is it? And look, here’s the other thing. Sometimes there are healthy foods that you’re like, you’re eating a lot of, or you just eat, but it doesn’t make you feel good. So. And I want to get to that in a minute, but so really paying attention and being Intentional look you don’t have to always track.
I know a lot of people are talking about tracking Macros, and yes, that may be a good place to start if that works for you Personally, I hate tracking. I just it I don’t know it just really Doesn’t align with who I am, and it makes me more focused. On what I can’t have than what I can have. So I am just more intentional and really focusing on getting that protein so that I can have that muscle.
So in my case, I’m building my whole, all of my meals, every meal I have, I’m building it around the protein because I know that protein is so important for my muscle. So, if I’m going to lift heavy, like I said, then I want to feed my muscles with the protein. And then, I’m really focusing on whole foods, real foods, you know, that come from the ground or come from an animal.
That’s where I really want to focus, so that I’m getting all the nutrients my body needs. And really, to be honest with you, I try not to even eat out. Very much. When I was younger and married to my first husband, we ate out so much. And it’s hard because the portions are huge. When you eat out, you are we used to order everything.
Like, I mean, we would leave some on the table, but I mean, we would order appetizers and meals for everybody. And it’s almost gluttonous when I think back to that, but they had inflammatory oils in there. I mean, just. All the things they had extra sugar and just everything. So when you eat out, it’s a lot harder to control your portions and to control what you are consuming.
It’s not that I don’t ever eat out now. I do eat out, but I really try to think about those things. I know I feel so much better when I know exactly what’s going into my body, which brings me to number five. Okay, listen to your body. Like I said, there may be Some healthy things that just don’t agree with you.
Well, I don’t care who tells you to eat them. If it doesn’t agree with you, it doesn’t agree with you. The biggest thing is we are all different. So we all need different things. And that’s what, when it comes to eating, when it comes to moving our body, when it comes to stress management, hormone help you know, Mindset, we are all different and what works for us may not work for somebody else.
So remember to listen, listen, listen to your body, listen to your mind, because, you know, that’s the other thing, we have this intuition, we know, we know, somebody could tell us something and we just do it because that’s what we think we should be doing, that’s what they’ve told us to do. And look, who knows what you should do.
Only you know what is going to work for you. Only you know what your goals are. Only you know how you feel. So, really listening to yourself. Listening to your body. Okay, so I hope this helps you. And even if you’re my age or older and you’re listening to this, I’m sure from one of these things you can pick out and I’m sure you have a lot of things that you’re like, I could tell my younger self this and I could tell my younger self that.
And like I said, from the very beginning, hindsight’s always 20, 20, but let’s try to learn from ourselves. From our friends, from our mentors. What, what is going to work for us long term? Okay. I want to go over the five things one more time, just to kind of refresh your memory. But number one, enjoy every moment.
Hey, fly by. Number two, it’s going to be okay. It’s going to be okay. You are resilient. Number three, lift heavy, number four, become more intentional with what you’re eating. Less processed foods, more whole foods. Okay. Number five, listen to your body.
Thank you. You know, what is best for you, right? Nobody else is living your life. Listen to yourself and know what’s right for you. But don’t let that be an excuse not to do something that makes you better. Don’t let something hold you back. You are an achiever, you are an overcomer, and you can do anything.
You just have to use your mindset, which is the number one thing I think is so important. Using your mindset. We talk about that. That’s the first thing we dive into in revive now, because I just think that that’s so important. If you can get that mindset right, then you can get everything right. So anyway, I hope you enjoyed this podcast.
Please let me know. about any other topics or guests or anything else you’d like to see on this podcast. Look, this podcast is for you. I have no ads on here because I want you to know that this truly is. For you. Okay. I hope you have a wonderful day and keep in touch. Always know you can email me, Deanna at well and worthy life.
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